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K’s Birth Mom and family came over for pizza the other day. Birth mom is also adopted, so it makes the family tree quite complicated.

There is Birth Mom, and her daughter, K’s 1/2 sister. Then there is Birth Moms Mom, (adoptive) and brothers, whom Birth Mom calls birth brothers although there isn’t a genetic connection. - Technically they are her brothers through adoption.

Over on the birth side there is Birth Mom’s birth mom who I’ve met once. And various uncles and relatives whom I’ve never met, although they all live close by.

The relationship I’m most interested in is K’s sister. Although I hate to think about being an older mom, I know that there is a possibility that K won’t have much family around one day. I like to think she’ll have a relationship with her sister but I don’t know if that will be true. They’ve got such different lives, and different upbringings. They’ll know each other though, or at least know how to reach each other and so they will have a choice.

K starts school in two weeks. I’ve never given much thought to how K will handle adoption at school until I read this post by Third Mom on preparing the teachers.

We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it I guess.

Over on my husbands side there are grandchildren who aren’t adopted, but also don’t have a direct blood line. There are marriages and divorces and children and steps. We’ve got ex-foster children who still come to visit. One calls me step-mom, which is nothing close to reality, but a name he gave me so he doesn’t have to think about being a foster child.

“Step, can I have milk please?”

The truth is families are complicated - connected in all kinds of ways.

When K misses someone, say when Daddy is at work, she’ll say, “Daddy is in my heart”

and that is how family should be connected.

Get paid to blog

Do you get paid to blog?

I used to when I wrote for a couple of commercial websites, but now that I’m on my own, I have to pay my own way. Occasionally I’ll get an adoption or older mommy article published, but mostly I’m relying on the bit of advertising here and my own savings to fund my blogging habit.

My fellow (and much better,) writer over on the Writing Nag recently posted about Smorty. She just got going with it. Hey, I thought, I’ve had my application in, what about me? Low and behold advertisers were waving money in front of me. I could start today getting paid to blog. How cool.

Now I hear all of you purist bloggers groaning - you are the ones who’d never review something you didn’t believe in. well, neither would I.

I’ve already turned down an opportunity to review a product I knew nothing about, and didn’t feel interested in.

Smorty gives me that choice. I can blog for money when I see an opportunity that fits with my blog.

How cool is that?

So, there you have it. I’m blogging for Smorty, when the opportunity arises, and it makes sense for the blog and the readers. And I’ll make a bit of money blogging to help offset the hosting.

If you want to check out blogging for money, just go over to their site on the link above. let me know what you think.

And yes, I did get paid to write this blog.

K starts pre-school in two weeks.

I wasn’t going to send her, but the school I’ve had her on the wait list for called with a spot open. So I’ve been getting health records, crayons and the mandatory princess backpack.

Its a public Montessori, but out of our district, so there is a thirty minute drive time every morning. Still, the schools got a great reputation, and after she turns five it’ll be free.

We went to meet the teach the other day. K shyly, said hi to teacher, and went off to play. Thirty minutes later I had to drag her out of the classroom.

The morning procedure is much like any other pre-school around the USA. I’ll take her to the outside door, sign her in with a teacher and kiss her goodbye. K and I practiced the routine.

“Goodbye K, have a wonderful time time at school today honey.”
“Goodbye Mommy, have a nice writing time mommy.”

Kisses all around and I pretended to leave.

When I turned around like, oh, one second later, K was talking to another four year old girl who had come to meet the teacher.

She’s ready for school.

That first day we’ll start our new routine. We’ll get up earlier than we’ve become accustomed, rush around to get ready and
drive thirty minutes to school. Along with way we’ll lift our butts as we drive over ‘crocodile lake’. We’ll make up songs and find letters on the billboards.

I’ll take her up to the door and kiss my little girl goodbye .

Goodbye K, have a wonderful time time at school today honey.
Goodbye Mommy, have a nice writing time mommy.

Then I’ll walk the two blocks to the library with my laptop where I’ll write.

And wait.

Dog the Bounty Hunter was just on Glen Beck a few minutes ago.

I’m not particularly a fan of Glens, but I love Dog and Beth and the whole dis-but-works family. And anyway, Andrew Luster is a pig. Someone had to go get him.

So after the Mexican government dropped the charges (based on statue of limitations) apparently our government is taking up the cause.

Our government? Come on, don’t we have enough fingers in enough pots already?

There isn’t any updated info on his website site, (www.dogthebountyhunter.com) yet.

Here’s the original interview with Glen Beck

I don’t know who to contact, but I’ll be complaining like mad when I find out.

I’m having a few problems with my site.

I have no idea what I did.

Blah.

If you are here, and know how to fix it. email me please

michelle - at - consciousdestiny.com

but I’m hoping to get help this afternoon.

UPDATE:

Turns out it was a plugin problem on wordpress and I deactivated all the plugins and then reactivated them one by one. Now the blog works fine. Thanks for all the concern.

This post is part of a virtual Tea Party, hosted by Tea Party Girl Jenny.

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One morning, sometime after my forty-third birthday I realized I wanted to be a Mom.

The clock never ticked in my twenties or thirties like it does for some women. Suddenly, on a nice quiet walk by myself, I heard this alarm. Loudly.

CHILDREN. NOW. IT’S ALMOST TOO LATE!
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One downside of being an older mom:

K came to me today and asked:

“Are you old Mommy? ”

“Yes” I replied.

“Don’t go live with the angels Mommy, It’s not your turn.”

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I can’t stand the possibility that someday, I won’t be here for her.

I hope I live to be 100 years old.

I needed a little boost today.

Luckily I came across this site.

Over on my other blog, (Live Holistically) I got a great comment on this post My Crunchy Granola Preschool Holistic Daughter and Macdonald’s.

Basically I was writing about balance and organic food, and fun and McDonald’s and where do you draw the line between eating healthy and cultural attitudes about McDonalds.

Anyway, Karen left this comment:

At a wonderful new mother support group I attended in Bondi after the birth of my first child, the discussion turned to a heated one on the pros & cons of immunization. Later a young, first time mum declared she would only feed her child organic food. Many agreed with her enthusiastically. An older woman sitting next to me sighed. Hers was a mid-life surprise 3rd baby. She leaned over to me and said in voice full of wisdom and exhaustion, “I’m just glad my 16yr old daughter isn’t on heroin.” It is 8 years later and I still think of her when I need balance.

Loretta over on Just Not Martha left me a comment the other day. I knew Loretta from her other site, but anyone who has blog all about not being perfect made me curious, so I went to visit and just I suspected, I love her attitude.

Gah! Mess everywhere all the time, I swear it makes itself! We’ve only lived here a month and I thought the first few weeks cleaning would be easy…new place not much to clean, don’t even have all the boxes unpacked. Yeah right, was I ever wrong, wrong, wrong. There’s just as much mess as usual, dishes to do, floors to scrub, litter box to empty. Then there’s new kinds of mess……

Sounds like my house. I’m totally not like Martha. I love pretty things, and a clean house - don’t we all, but my car looks like a trash can most of the time. Whats up with that? I know better, would like better, but for most of the moms I know that’s life.

Mess everywhere, wanting better, living and loving life regardless.

At least I’m not obsessed about my sock drawer.

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