Sep

27

It’s a Family Celebration!

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My parents are celebrating their 50th Wedding Anniversary next week!  We are all off for a big party and celebration, so I’m not blogging or around much right now.

If you are subscribed, then you’ll see the new posts as they appear - if not, check back in the middle of October.

If you are family, see you in a week!

LAMK

p.s.  I think I fixed the comment thing, thanks for your patience…..

Sep

24

Augh the comments

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I got 54 spam comments on this blog in less than 10 minutes today. I’ve turned off all unmoderated comments until I can fix this. Sorry… What a pain.

Sep

14

The Kids Grow Up and Birth Mom Flew!

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birth mom taking the bus

So K made it through a whole week of school. In the mornings she complained a bit, wanting to stay home with mommy, but mostly because she wanted to sleep. She’s not quite set in this new new routine of going to bed and getting up early. She’s tired, but refuses to go to sleep if she thinks things are happening elsewhere in the house. This morning is a teacher conference day, (yes already!) and she’s sleeping in.

I always enjoy getting comments and reading the other mommy blogs. Angela and Rhea, left kind words and other Midlife Mommies - Motherpie, and Third Mom Margie left comments referring to the time flying by. I know, I know, I’ve also got two grown (step) kids and five grandchildren older than K. Every time I see them I act like a totally dorky grandmother.

“My how you’ve grown! You must have shot up three inches since the last time I saw you”

The joy comes from watching them spread the wings though, and grow emotionally. K heads off to school each morning, and deals with the dramas that every three and four year old girl (and onward) deal with. Friendship, jealousy, hurt feelings; my heart breaks for K when she sees her new best friend of three days, play with the other new girl ignoring K.

How did us Mommies ever make it through all that drama?

After reading Jennas Magnadoodle blog post (which almost made my cry), I thought I’d give K’s birth mom a jingle on the cell phone.

“K started school today. She did really well! ”

“That’s great. Thanks so much for calling. Let’s talk again in a few weeks. I’m in Albuquerque. visiting my brother”

Huh? The (ex) druggy homeless birth mom with no transportation made it across country by herself?

She’s growing up too. I’m so proud.

Sep

10

Today’s the Day!

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My daughter adoption

I didn’t sleep a wink. First I dreamed that K was waiting patiently to go but I was running errands and missed the whole thing. Then I was washing my hair in the back of the car and since there isn’t water, I had to run back home and so we were late.

It is 5:30 am. I’m up and ready.

K is sleeping soundly secure that Mommy will take care of everything.

This photo shows her as such a little baby. When did she grow up?

Wish me luck.

K starts school in 2 hours and 26 minutes.

Sep

7

Donate to the Kids

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You may have noticed I’ve added a donate button on the left side of the page.  I’m slowly doing a redesign of the site which puts all the ads on the left, and the content stuff on the right.  Any time you click on something on the left, and spend money, the proceeds - 100% of them, go to the help kids.  Any pay per post writing I do, or anything that brings in money to this site with go to help kids.

I do I’ve chosen Bono’s and Oprah’s charities.  If you disagree with my choices of charities, drop me an email or comment below and tell me why. Otherwise just donate. We can help.

Sep

5

I’m Step, He’s Ex. I hope it stays that way.

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dirty dishes no reason to pull kids

I got a call from ‘Ex’s mom. Ex is my past foster son who took to calling me ‘Step’‘ so he wouldn’t have to think about me being his foster mom. Step as in step-mom.

Mom was reported to DHS for having a sink full of dirty dishes. Some neighbor with a grudge.

If that was the criteria for kids taken away I’d be in trouble. As I sit here writing last night’s dishes are in the sink.

Mom though is always in a pile of drama. Someone in her life is always going to jail, or getting bailed out. Her car breaks down in the middle of traffic, or gets towed off while she is at the grocery store. Things happen to her that I only see on TV.

I know about girl fights, money being stolen from her mailbox, getting locked out of her own house for hours. It is always some drama or another.

So when she called me in tears that DHS was coming to inspect her home and evaluate her I’m wondering how she manages to keep such a high level of drama in her life. I find it exaughsting to listen to - never mind live.

DHS comes out this week to visit her. I sure hope that don’t go talk to ‘Step’ at his school. That would be devestating to him. But I can’t count on DHS doing the right thing.

Moms got dirty dishes. Who cares. She doesn’t do parenting like I would. And yea, life is full of the unexpected in her world, but she doing ok.

I hope DHS sees that and sees this report for what it is. A bitchy nosey neighbor.

Step, I’m pulling for you. I hope you get to stay home.